Breakup Friends?

Ok boggle this... When is a 'breakup' considered a 'breakup'? When a 'breakup' occurs does one stop acknowledging the other party or does one go on being 'friends'? If the latter is taken which is to remain 'friends' then how much of individualism would u grant ur former partner and vice versa?

In theory, when a 'breakup' occurs then both persons will gain back their individualism, get over the relationship and move on with their individual lives... Then when the time is right, get back into the dating game and try again for yet another relationship with the hope of getting the next one right.. If this is so, why does a significant proportion of the population out there, especially ours, find great difficulty in regaining their individualism?

I used to have this utopian idea that when a 'breakup' occurs, thats it, lives are separated, individualism is once again acheived, the 'us' factor is not there anymore, the 'we' factor is abolished.. But as i age in this ancient ground, I discover that sometimes this is not the case.. Its more often than not now that either one or both individuals in the broken up relationship would still hang on to each other.. Now where did the good old notion of 'let go of the burdens of the past and move on to the discoveries of a new & better future' go?

What about the 'we shall just remain friends' notion after a 'breakup'? Is that truly possible? If the idea of both individuals just being friends & to accept & embrace that both of them are living seperate lives and neither one of them can dictate each other anymore, then perhaps the idea of 'just being friends' can truly be considered..

The problem that kicks most people in the face is that after a 'breakup' and choosing the 'just being friends' option, they still act as if they are a couple.. They won't allow their PREVIOUS partner to live their own lives, see other people or even be in contact with other people.. Where is the logical sense in this?.. If its like that then why break up in the first place! (Being overly emotional here *hehe)..

I have discovered that most excuses that exists out there are contemporary.. The typical 'nda sampai hati meninggalkan mcm atu saja', 'haf a responsibility over dem', yadda yadda yaddda.. But are these excuses just cover ups for what lies beneath? Is the truth of the matter just simply, to used to being with them and the very thought of going on with life without them or without anyone, scares the sh*t out of u? A provoking thought to ponder on..

Anyhow.. Just my thought of the day.. *smile*

~so long to all my pain~ gudnyte 2 my heartache~ gudbye sorrow~ i wont cry no more~ i'm leavin u tomorrow~